The Misunderstood Hell

Chapter 9 - Right & Wrong, Good & Evil?

Tears are your friend. When you process emotions, the final stage is mourning. Working through loss, grief. As you cry out the loss, the painful emotions resolve and you end up feeling much better. The painful emotions shift over into positive emotional energy. I'm being very vague about this because it would take an entire book to explain it and that's not the purpose of this book.

So the goal is to love yourself properly and know the truth as much as possible in order to bring the dysfunctional parts of your heart (subconscious) over to the functional side of operations. It gives life back to our heart because unconditional love is an integral part of life.

Unconditional love means you fully accept yourself the way you are without conditions, and you give yourself unconditional attention (when appropriate each day). It also eventually means feeling very loving toward yourself and fond of yourself, but not in a self-centered, unhealthy way. You'd be surprised how great it feels to love yourself. It makes feeling your painful feeling enjoyable, eventually.

A highly dysfunctioning heart is called a "hard heart." Figuratively speaking, a hard heart doesn't beat so it's not alive...which means it can't feel. That's a very big problems if you want to live and function properly.

Jesus said the two laws that fulfill the entire Law are to love God with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself. After all, how can you know how to love your neighbor if you don't even know how to love yourself?

So we get to know God in order for Him to show us how to love ourselves unconditionally, and then we'll be able to love our neighbor the same way.

We see God teaching His people how to love theirselves unconditionally in the Mosaic Law of the Old Testament, including its Ten Commandments, and how to deal with painful emotions properly.

Part of the Law included a section of Isreal where people went to mourn together when they lost a loved one. They didn't try to cheer each other up like we do nowadays when our friend is hurting. If you're clever, you'll have caught on to the fact that that would be sin. Why? Because it's an attempt to do something to change the way we feel because we don't accept the way we feel--we're afraid of it or we dread it.

Even our friend is uncomfortable with us feeling down, so he tries to change the way he feels by changing the way you feel. If he can get you to feeling better, he'll feel better, too. And that's exactly what he does when he doesn't feel good...he makes himself feel better by doing something else that avoids his uncomfortable emotions. But all this does is bury them.

So you can clearly see that we love others the way we love ourselves. We cheer ourself up when we're down, and we cheer our friends up when we're down. But in Ancient Israel, that wasn't the way of things.

Instead, they accepted the way they felt and leaned into it. If they were feeling mournful, they mourned together. How out of place would you feel if you were the only one mourning? You'd probably put your feelings aside and stop the mourning. But how much easier would it be if everyone around you were mourning, too? You could work through your emotions, processing them to resolution instead of burying them and continuing to repress them. And what do they do when they're repressed? They push you to want to sin to feel better without you even knowing it.

So, next time you feel bad, just sit and feel bad and embrace it, loving on it as if it's a little child who's hurt. Because in reality, it really is a part of your heart that is stuck in childhood, unable to grow, mature, and be content due to becoming stuck and not dealing with the emotions that caused it to become stuck. Both dealing with those emotions and the lie that created them is the key to healing that part of yourself once and for all. I plan to write a book on how to do that, but until then, just practice what I mentioned above. You'll be very surprised juat how much change that will affect within.