This isn't going to be a story. But just a safe place for all of us to share our problems ?? As I begin posting you all will understand what this is going to be about ??
But I just wanted to say, anything that's been bothering you, drop it in my...
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Kindness tends to get exploited, not always but sometimes and we need to be aware of it to stop it from happening.
To be kind is never a bad thing but as time has proven again and again that extremes of anything is bad. It is bound to lead to disaster. And the extreme of kindness isn't an exception.
People think they're entitled to kindness even when they don't behave accordingly. But they're not. We all have bad days and that's understandable but if a person constantly walks all over you, steps over your boundaries and doesn't pay any attention to your needs and comfort they don't deserve a place in your life, let alone in your heart.
Some of us unfortunately, can be stuck in situations and have no where to go, to them all I want to say it's okay and if it's not, one fine day, it'll all be okay. You'll break free of all the toxicity in your life and fly away. Until there, hold on to the last ounce of strength and courage that you have and make plans for the day you're free.
But to all the people who overlook the toxicity for one reason or the other, I want to tell y'all that you're wasting your time on people and relationships that don't reciprocate your love and energy back to you. That's the bare minimum. Respect yourself enough to break the chain of toxicity and set yourself free. Don't hold on to the people and relationships that don't serve you because there are more than enough of them to give you a happy life.
By chaining yourself to the toxicity you'll never let true love, light and happiness to enter your life and that is wrong on so many different levels. I know it's so much easier said than done, but trust me once it's done, there's nothing more refreshing. Nothing will make you feel as light as breaking free will.
Sometimes, we hold on to people with the hope that they'll change, then wait without being involved with them. Let them change and meet you when they've changed for the good. Yes, I'm not encouraging people to abandon loved ones who need help but also secure yourselves. Don't take away your mental peace just in the hope that they'll change. Be with them through their journey but don't give yourself the expectations that makes you suffer so much.
Again, easier said than done. It's a very simple thing to do but it isn't easy at all. It takes a lot of courage and you have yourself. If needed, reach out to your loved ones and let them know you need them with you. It isn't a matter of shame or guilt but a matter of your life and happiness.
And you might be wondering why am I talking so much about relationships in the topic of kindness because usually, kindness is one of the strongest things to have but people take it for granted. They abuse it and make you think it's your biggest weakness. It's a trap that you should abandon and run away from but no, kindness is one of the most beautiful traits to carry. Don't let the darkness of some lurking shadows taint your love for light.
Usually, in relationships that matter to us people get away with treating us however they want just because we're kind and understanding and empathetic but shouldn't happen. Yes, I agree sometimes, people do things that hurt us unintentionally and at those times, forgiveness and moving on are important but when someone constantly steps over you and hurts you, then it might be time to cut those people out and cut those relationships short.
Your kindness is supposed to be your strength and happiness, not the reason that you're unhappy and stuck.
And breaking relationships doesn't mean you're planning and plotting against them and want to avenge or destroy them but it just means moving away from them. Cut them off from your love and light. Move on and find happiness within. Love yourself. And again, it's simple but never easy. So don't be impatient and rude to yourself. Give yourself the kindness you extend to others.
