The Single Life of The British Bombshell

Hey luvs,

So I'm breaking my normal date recap tradition to give a special highlight to my girls because at this point I just feel so blessed to have true and genuine phenomenal ladies in my life!! For the first time I can say I truly have a lifelong friend group and it makes me overjoyed to say!!

You see over the years I've moved around a lot from country to country, had friends in high school, college, and various jobs I worked at, but to me they just felt very superficial which was fine for me because I'm the type of person that can make superficial friends wherever I go because I'm extremely personable and pretty much an extrovert. I never thought I needed deeper connections with women, but to have it now I see how much I needed it and it feels so exhilarating.

I guess I'm feeling so blessed because last night my girls got together and celebrated me, for my pre-birthday celebration. We didn't do anything too crazy either. A simple sip and paint and dinner with incredible photo op places, but that was it!! Simple but soooo sweet. It was perfect and made me so happy!!

Not sure if they even noticed but there were times throughout the night where I sat a bit silent and took in the moments. Now people that know me would be surprised that I was actually the more quiet one in the group but I guess that's because when I'm comfortable with people and they have big personalities too, I don't need mine to be as big. But it was phenomenal to sit there, watch and take it all in before getting into the pictures and laughing the night away.

I remember one moment where Barbie asked me, what's one thing I want to accomplish this year. It took me a moment to come up with because I do so much and have so many goals that sometimes it's hard for me to pinpoint. The question was a great one though because it made me push myself to solidify what I wanted for the year! I ended up settling on getting on another game show and getting on a reality show as a relationship expert or personal trainer for celebrities. Now yes I know that's still, 3 things haha, but that's the best I could do and extremely narrowed down compared to the multitude of other things I could have added.

When I said my response, my 3 girls all accepted them, meaning that they all truly knew me, to have the belief in me, that I will accomplish those goals and even more. I've never had that in Women before, besides my mother of course, but to be in a room with 3 other powerful, successful, and goal oriented women, and know you're in the right circle because you're able to fully relate and support one another is huge.

In my past, I've been around many women, but I've always felt that they were either jealous of me or threatened by me, so as a result I've kept my circle really tight and actually for a while had no real friends and was perfectly fine with that because the so-called friends I had served no value for me and rather always wanted something from me. It's never good to feel as if you're giving your all and helping others but that if the shoe were on the other foot it wouldn't be reciprocated! So in one failed swoop I changed my phone number and deleted all those so-called friends or associates out of my life for good!! I faded to black on them because they couldn't see me for who I was or for my value. Then God, knowing that I'm his child, sent me 3 Real and genuine friends!!

3 powerful and instrumental women, that I truly feel will be in my life forever!! Bestie was first, we started years ago, I think it might be about ten years now, but when we first met, something just clicked with us!! Over the years our relationship grew and we started opening up to each other and realized the similarities and differences that we had could propel one another to get one step closer to our individual dreams. We are honest with one another and always there to catch one another if and when we're about to fall!! We hold each other up and also hold each other and ourselves accountable which is just so important!! I couldn't wish for a better bestie!! Her heart is pure just like mine and she gives of herself when she cares and loves you, just as I do! So we're similar in many ways but also compliment each other with our strengths and differences!! It's truly something to see and I thank God for bringing her into my life!!

After bestie, Barbie came into the picture. It's been a few years now and the funny thing is that first she got closer to bestie and I was definitely cool with it. The thing about me is that I'm not one of those women that get jealous if their friends have other friends because they want their best friend all to themselves. I'm the type of woman that wants to empower other women and that's one of the things that Barbie and I connected on. Not to mention, Barbie is sooo amazing and phenomenal too!! She's so beautiful inside and out and she too gives of herself when she cares and loves someone. She's very much into God also and I feel like that is an underlying thread that connects the four of us women also because "He" is so powerful that he's able to show himself through the light of others so that's what I feel he's doing through us!! I cherish the relationship with Barbie, it's cool cause we have our separate connection and then our connection with bestie.. it all works seamlessly.

Then this year we had the pleasure to add another phenomenal woman into our friend group!! Tiraji, this girl is unapologetically herself and I freaking love it!! She's in touch with who she is as a woman and has been able to join our group because she is open and funny, sweet and goal oriented like the rest of us. It's as if she was the missing puzzle piece that we didn't even know we needed!! Last night, proved that!! Anyone that would've seen us would've thought that we've known each other our entire lives and I wouldn't have it any other way!!

Who would've thought that such a simple birthday would've brought out all these thoughts from me! Not even me actually! But as I was driving on one of my long rides with my smooth music playing and the trees passing me by, I started thinking about the fact that in the past on my birthday I would usually be away somewhere working with the models or with my man. And yes, Bestie and Barbie have gone out with me before and celebrated me along with one of our other male friends but it was just something about this celebration!! The sheer power of 4 beautiful women coming together for a positive, fun night. A true girls night, where we were able to let loose and joke around with one another in such an innocent and healthy way!! The way that they made sure to celebrate and highlight me, from taking pictures and videos of me, complimenting me, getting the perfect gifts for me, and just sharing their time with me on a rainy, cold night!! It meant the world to me and I couldn't have asked for a better way or a better group of ladies to bring in my special day with!! I'm overcome with happy tears as I publish this heartwarming episode!! Obkb my luvs, make sure you check back soon for your regularly scheduled date night episodes, but until then, XOXO Bombshell Out!!