Ask Alex ~A wattpad Advice Column~

Dear Alex,

         i really like this guy and we text alot sending hearts and winky faces. my mom and dad are friends with his mom and dad so... we r 2 years apart i am 14 he is 16 and our parents wont let us date or even TEXT anymore. i really like him. i have tried talking to my parents but its always no Lindsay. what can i do?

from the forbidden lover

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Dear Forbidden Lover,

I have a question for you. Have you ever asked your parents why they don't want you to date or text him? Sometimes parents act on instinct and that can get in the way of their judgement. Especially at a young age they will always see you as their little girl, so they end up wanting to protect you. Instead of trying to talk to them about how much you like this guy and how you want to be with him or date him. Ask them the question. "I understand that you don't want me to date him but I just want to know why and then I'll stop asking you." They need to be willing to be open to tell you on their discussions and also that you should ask about the whole texting thing too. So, like, after you ask them and get their reason.. if it's a decent reason then ask them why you can't just text him then? There isn't anything wrong with being friends with a guy. There has to be common ground for you all to stand on.

The next thing I wanna come across with is does this guy like you back? Because if your the only one trying to get your parents to see nothing is wrong with dating each other then that is just wrong and your basically chasing T.Vs. So I would take that into consideration too.

If this guy likes you maybe he should try courting you. Show your parents how good he can be for their daughter. As parents they love to see their child getting treated right by any guy. So that could ease them up also.

  I think I have a clue on why your parents don't want you two to date. They probably see the age difference. Yes you guys are not that much apart but older guys tend to want more. (if you know what I mean) So your parents just want to make sure you don't end up with someone and prego... Another thing.. probably might be that they heard something about him, either from his parents or around, something that could make them not want you two together. Or it's just that you are too young to have a boyfriend. Have you ever been allowed to date anyone before? These all can be factors onto why.

Now, I just want to say your parents are probably just looking out for you so please don't try to disobey them :/ They will come around eventually, or at least I hope they do. For you, you need to take these moments as a learning experience. Grow from them if they don't end up right and cherish them if they do.

I hope this helps you!

~Alex