My Journey To Normality (Part 1)

I've talked about this before but I want to talk about it again because it has upset me so much. It's about people saying that to be transgender you must have body dysphoria, more specifically if you don't want botton surgery then you can't be transgender. I understand that it is common to have body dysphoria when you're transgender and even I experience it with my chest and voice.  However espically for non binary transgender people I feel like it is very different experience and it's not necessary.  For me personally I would never want bottom surgery, for a number of reasons. Though my decision not to have bottom surgery doesn't change the fact that I am transgender. I do not identify as the sex I was assigned at birth and by definition that makes me transgender.

Also it's my choice what I do with my body. It's wrong to tell anyone how to feel or what insecurities to have no matter what the context. Your feelings are valid no matter what they are. In my opinion dealing with body dysphoria should be less about changing your body to fit into an image of a gender and more to do with being comftable amd confident in your body. For example I'm bigender and identify as male and female, but I can't have a body that is two genders. Depending on how I'm identifying my opinion on my body changes, but little by little I become more confident in my body and have learnt that my apperence does not connote to my gender identity. 

We live in a society that genders nearly everything but as sex is biological our body parts are gendered as either male or female. So how can someone who does not identify within the male or female genders have a body that fits their gender? It would be a lot easier if nothing was gendered but that is just not realistic at the moment, but we can be more respectful of other people and stop forcing our ideas onto them.